Any many miny mo. . .

Ive come to a recent realization. This may just be a zeitgeist or it may an inattentivelysustained fact. I find myself surrounded by beautiful women here at the AUC constantly...and i never approach the most gorgeous ones. Scared? . . maybe. But I know my charisma usually makes up for any of my inconsistencies. Ive noticed that I always approach the descent looking friend (usually in the range of 7-9) rather than the one who's bad...and knows shes bad (10). . . .here's what i think

Scenario: I'm walking down the "strip" in my classy clothes. Pastel shirt, comfortable slacks and a bow tie to bring it all together. As I saunter down above the uniquely amalgamated bricks that serve as a walkway for the AUC students I come across two beautiful young ladies. Most times I just say "you ladies look nice. Have a great day" and keep it moving. But this time it was different. I felt the need to converse with one and gain sometime of confidence for the week by challenging myself to talk with these two females at the same time and sustain their interest. I speak to the 10 first just to let her know that I know shes cute but shes not in my game plan. I always speak to the target last - just to build somewhat of a slight anticipation of my greeting. So I ask the 8 her name and continue to try to build a friendship. we exchange numbers and blah blah blah

Epiphany:

I'm one who's more interested in the creativity in a conversation rather than the curves in a cute outfit. I honestly feel uncomfortable around people who are more materialistic rather than morally sound. There is way more to life than just buy this then buy that (even tho I do it). I always feel like I must be ostentatious to make them comfortable around me, which will in turn make me comfortable. But why should I have to do that when I'm comfortable with who I am now.

the reason I am writing this is becuase one of my friends got a bit upset when I shunned his request to converse with two seemingly shallow females who only cared about the price of his new shoes. . . Hell I never go over 90 for mines so she prob wont give me the time of the day any how. Maybe I shouldn't have judged those females by there "cover" but when you come from a certain subculture, it gets pretty easy to distinguish what certain females are about by their walk, talk, clothing, and posture. I'm no female analyst, but I may as well should be one. Ill have a general premeditated story about a female before I even converse with them. When I get to know them more, my stories are 90% of the time in correlation to their true background. . . .

P.S. I think one of the people I'm following blogged about how dudes do this this a few weeks ago. I love this Blog family...keep up the enlightening works guys!

Its all a mind game!

During the first few weeks that i arrived here, I jumped on a party promotion team, "The Unit". I saw it as a way for me sharpen my marketing skills while prepping for the business world. I was completely ostentatious in order to have success in this field. I felt like I had to completely come out of my element to prosper as an incumbent of this organiztion. (Charles Darwin: Survival of the Fittest ...right?) Yep I said incumbent! They made me "CEO of Freshman Class" right off the back! That showed me that they were weak, but I took this as an another opportunity to to sharpen up my managerial skills.

Whilst working hard to throw the wildest and craziest parties, I began to notice that marketers have to be innate sociologist and an in depth psychologists. Firstly they must know the culture of the group they are targeting. They must find out what do that culture has and what do they dream of possessing. (Key thing) Once they have that, they can develop a tactic. . .which is selling the culture the dream. They go more into detail about what certain instances that could happen in terms of bringing in the consumers and manipulating them.

Example: It starts with the annoying fliers. "Sex on the beach", "Candy Shop", and my favorite," $1 per article of clothing" themes on the fliers all with the concept of ladies free til 12. The girls are going to go where that can have a good time for free. . .that attracts the males because they know the dudes are going to go where the mass of females will preside for that night. They will charge the males because they know [Pussy is Power] and dudes value the affection of a woman way higher than women value a mans affection, or at least openly. [First Manipulation]. Whilst standing in line both the males and females are in line anticipating on the chance to touch each other and show off. One problem though: The line is moving soooooo sloooooow! Promoters do this for two reasons. One to conserve some of the AC and room occupancy in the building and two becuase they can are stalling til 12, so they can start charging.

Once 12 does hit, they are charging everybody!!! and everybody WILL pay because the anticipation has built up so much to get in there and join the party. [Second Manipulation]... I'm pretty sure they do a bunch more but I'm new to this clubbing thing and mind you. I'm only 17 so I don't get to see how the bar manipulates its customers.

Clubs make it seem like that 4 hour party/drinking session/smoking session is synonymous to the dream that that culture holds hard to attain. So they think they are living our that dream for 4 hours of a night, whilst taking some of the pressure off themselves from work or what not.

Yesterday I began reading this book titled "All marketers are liars". It isn't pointing fingers like the title sounds like, but it at first sells you a story that you think you are going to capture by giving you a title that misleading. They know most people are nosy and like dirt so they picked a title that would give them that temporary feeling of finding more dirt and debate topics. [got me lol] In actuality, the books talk about how society values "stories" (that are the basically the same as that dream above) that are in correlation to a dream that they would like to attain, temporarily. He used the example of a lady in the shoe store. She tries on that shoe, imagines herself looking exquisite in them and pays $120 for that dream capturing.

With the Party and Shoe scenarios, it brings me back to my sociology class. We've just gotten done talking about the 3 main perspectives of society.

1. Functionalism- Everything plays a role that is equally significant in society. Without one thing, another couldn't function properly. Every small aspect contributes to the bigger picture.
   
   
   
2. Conf;ict Theory- The rich exploit the poor and brainwash them to think that the money they have to offer is better than the goods that are produced. Basically, Capitalism. Karl Marx was the first.
   
   
3. Symbolic Interaction- Society revolves around values. The different values that people hold on the tangibles and intangibles shape the society.
   

. . . .Guess What approach I'm taking on this marketing thing. Marketers know what you value!! So they manipulate your psych and your funds by selling a false representation of the real. The same thing that Facebook users do! Never talk to anyone via internet because they are only giving you the best side of them and not themselves as a whole.

In order to prosper in this highly competitive "dog eat dog" market we reside in , you must determine your values and prioritize them. Know that the mass doesn't have their shit together so the crowd will continue be manipulated. There will be a butt load of times where you will be alone in doing what you need to do. That's fine. Allow me to say that ALL dreams/stories aren't worthy to be attained, but that's up to your intellect and values to decide. You can be fashionable and shop smart ( I love thrift stores!). Do your self and your future the favor of determining whats important to you know and i promise you will be one of the few that aren't manipulated by society.

Here are some pix to one of my parties. It was crazy that night!

This has been a Bean Boy PSA

Lia-Asset?

"When defining your friend circle, you must determine your assets and liabilities."

My pastor caught me with that last Sunday and it got me to thinking. Different friends give different incentives in different situations. I have very smart friends who i would never take to the club. I have skateboard friends who I would never take to a board meeting. I have a "friend" that will never meet my mom and a friend I'm dying to let my mom meet. I have a friend who is very funny but I will never share my insight with them. All these people are great and possess qualities in them that I just don't want to let go.

Hypothetically, I think you should have that one friend that meets all those needs. That person that you can laugh with but also can debate with. That person you can shop with and that person you can party with. That person you can watch a football game with and that person you can go to a concert with. That person....that can satisfy all your needs and uplift you in places where you need it while you do the same inattentively. The determinant factor for that person to be your best friend or your best girlfriend is if you consider sex a "need".

. . . My bestfriend is a female. I LOVE YOU AURY!!!

Minor switch....need advice

Last night was the elections of the Residence Hall Association. I ran for senator of my hall, Graves Hall. My platform was that we cant be satisfied with previos levels of advancement. I told them that every year the next generation of residents should get better; much similar to the innovatioon of the models of cars. I came from a quote repetitively noted by many of Aristotle. "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not a mere act, but a habit.".......i challenged my residence hall that we must strive for perpetual development.

. . . . .I won.

The reason I am writing this post is becuase I consistently recieved compliments on my speech and many of the upperclassmen (on SGA) asked me for a copy of my speech. This was WOWING...i was completely tooken aback that this many people respect my word. So Im considering changing my minor from english to communications....good move or pointless?

Thanks Dr. Akbar for the reassurance!

Some odd posts ago, I implied that our society is screwed because of the intransigence of the elder generation. I went on to say that the elder generation typically blames the youth for their disparity of our future. Quite contrarily, its the at the fault of the elders in society. I said that the youth of our society don't know their history so they don't know themselves, and thus look to find themselves in the TV,radio, or streets. These places are already corrupt and they're cultivating their corruption in the implementations of the lifestyles throughout our youth. Yesterday I received confirmation that this insight was not specious, it was actuality.

I attended a lecture by Dr. Na'im Akbar. He is a black psychologist that analyzes the mindsets of African Americans and the way they have transformed through periods of turmoil. Basically, he says that the African American race is not where it should be because we have not seized the "Three Cs".

• Consciousness- Knowing who you are. "Consciousness shifts the paradigm from comparison to confirmation." When you know who you are and where you come from, you stop comparing your excellence to others and use that knowledge as a confirmation that you are the best.
  
  
• Competence- Being able to surpass the levels of mental competition. He said that once you know the ins and outs of your craft then you will be able to manipulate the game in your favor.
  
  
• Courage - You got to have balls to succeed. You have to be able to face a challenge, look it in the face with intravenous effrontery and tell it that you WILL overcome it.
  
  

Na'im Akbar is in fact one of the most informative, influential and intelligent beings Ive ever heard speak. His aura gives off such a reassurance that he has done the proper research in his studies that emanate hegemony. I HIGHLY advise everyone to check out some of his books. Look out for a future post with summary of the key elements of his book "Visions for Black Men".

Frederick Douglass is a F***** G!!!

Okay first off forgive my ignorance. Ive known about Frederick Douglas and his legacy for quite some time....but never really got into the intricate distinction of his struggles until today. While reading the first chapter today, I was glued to the rather well put syntax of his interesting story early on. Whilst reading I recognize just how gangsta he was. Freddy G got his ass whipped contrarily to the regular "tie the slave up and whip them with a leather whip". He fainted while doing feild work, regained his consciousness, and crawled away to hide. His vice-master found him while hiding, asked him what was wrong, kicked him in the side twice, told him to get up, then bust his head open with a gardening tool. Freddy G bled like a river. He decided to file a complaint to the real master so he could be removed from this plantation and moved to another.

He made a long trip with repetivie fainting and sleep breaks. He was fucked up! This 7 mile journey took him 5 hours. When he finally arrived covered in blood from head to toe and his hair clotting up the huge gash in his head, the real master showed a "heart of iron". The real master tried to justify the situation on behalf of the vice-master for some time but soon his heart kicked in and gave him a spot to stay for the night. He woke early that morning, stopped to see a buddy of his and he gave him this lucky "root" that in essence just boosted his head to gain respectowed to himself.

Freddy G soon made his way back to the planation where he was beat and as soon as he got there the vice-president was trying to whip him again. Freddy G ran and hid in the cornfield grass. 2 days later he and the v.m. met agian and the vm ostentatiouly approached Freddy G with the nice guy role. He gave him light orders and left him be.

While knocking out that work the VM tries to sneak Freddy....(O_o)...Freddy G whooped his ass! It started with choking him, then a knee to the balls that had him on the ground crying for help. His help came and was like...nahhhhhhh dog...this fight is yours LMAO! Freddy G proceeded to beat his ass for two more hours and from the next four years on he had nooooooo problems lol....he quoted "The whole six months afterwards, that I spent with Mr. Covey [Vice-Master], he never laid the weight of his finger upon me in anger. He would occasionally say he didnt want to get a hold of me again. 'No,' thought I,"you need not; for you will come off worse that you did before."....THATS GANGSTA EFFRONTERY AT ITS BEST!!!

I NEED HELP!!

In order for you to understand this post not in an ethnocentric (I learned that today) manner, I must tell you my story. As a youngin {lets say 6th grade} I was always the smallest and as a result always felt like I needed to prove myself. I did very well in doing so in the athletic world with this mindset, but in the streets and everyday life, I began to cultivate a corrupt mind. My perspective in life was fuck you if you couldnt beat my ass or if your dick wasnt larger than mines. I got in a buttload of fights (I only lost 1 =D)and gained an enormous amount of respect from my peers. After time passed and I was well respected by my community, I didnt have anything to fight for anymore.

In tenth grade I felt like I had another arena to prove myself; academics. I was always smart but only felt like i had to prove it in the neighborhood, somewhat of a wanna be genius gangsta lol (yayee yayee)..So I in essense turned myself around took advantage of all my opportunities to seek knowledge. I then started gaining respect from my elder generation and inspired my peers and youth. I felt great when I finally started to see improvement in my brother's schoolwork. I noticed It was indirectly becuase of my advancement that he advanced, so this was the fuel behind my academic advancement.

Now im at my dream school, after being rejected and seized the appealing process, and I am diligently working to keep my seat here and not letting the hope of my support systems to fade away. Sooooooooo today I find myself waking up at 3 pm (crazy party last night) and studying from 3:30pm til.......30 minutes ago!! I think this is bittersweet...seeing as though I thoroghly understand wtf is goin on in all my classes now and what will be covered for the week ahead of now. BUT...I know theres a way to be moderately effective in the same way....so blogspot my question to you is....WHAT STUDY TECHNIQUES OR HABITS DO YOU USE THAT ARE TIME SENSITIVE AND HELPS YOU RETAIN INFO EFFECTIVE AS WELL?