Leadership is key....this book is essential!

21 Irrefutable Laws Of Leadership is a must have, must read, must live by. This book breaks down leadership on so many levels, perspectives and aspects of life. "Everything rises and falls on leadership." If you are or plan to be CEO , Pastor, Politician, Musician, Manager, or even a neighborhood Dope Boy, this book is for you. Know that these arent specious suggestions offered from a notorious speaker, these actually work! ive noticed quite a few of them in just day to day living. I highly reccomend this book to everyone!

So im writing a book...and I need your opinion

So all year I have been contemplating about writing a book. But more so on what I would write about. I've come to the conslusion that I will write a book to my younger brother who's going to the sixth grade. I've noticed that with my schedule im alwasy occpied and thus cant give him the proper attention he meeds from his older brother. In doing so, I have cheated my brother out of a buttload of life lessons. Theres so much to catch him up on and so much empowerment to give, so much insight to share and so much steering to do. I feel like with what I plan to make happen at Morehouse, that I still wont have the proper time to teach him the good stuff thoroughly. With that in mind, I finalized my decision to write my book. I will write all my lessons I've endured, insight ive gained, and empowerment techniques ive gained from the past and and will gain in the next 5 years in this masterpiece. My goal is to give it to him at his high school graduation ceremony.

.....this is where I need your help....If there is anything on my blog that you feel is more that suffice to the goals of this book...please let me know. Its alot easier to piggy back off my posts than it is to start from stratch. Dont forget to tell me why you think it would behoove me use the post you selected ...Thanks!!

Are you an ignorant believer?

First off, allow me to inform you that I am not an agnostic, nor an Atheist. I have been going to church on consecutive sundays since i was born. Thats at least (52x17)=[884] sundays. I have noticed a couple things. The whole christian aura in church seems a bit like a rap concert. The Preacher goes "blahdy blah blah!". The assistant preacher (or whos ever in the pulpit)goes "You betta preach boy!". Then the crowd feeds off it and responds with "Awright!", "Amen!", "Preach Preacher!" or probably take off and do a few laps. If the preacher feels like he's still not giving them what they are paying for, he'll attempt to get them to interact more by saying stuff like "yall aint hearing me", yall aint sayin nothing" , or something quite innovative like " Stop.Rewind. Now play it again"......Its just the same as a Young Money concert.

Wayne says "Blahdy Blah Blah!". Drake or Mac Mane goes "I wish I could fuck every girl in the world!" And the crowd feeds off of it!...same ol lame ol.....my point is this Im starting to view my religion as its sophism. Specious displays of ingenuity that are point blank just for entertainment. To say "Im a better preacher" or to say "I have the best church" or to say " Ive attracted the best congregation"...modestly. How do we know that what they are feeding us is "sent from god" How can we prove that this man whos entertaining us embodies devine integrity? How? ....to impinge even further......Why are you a Christian? Why are you a jew? Why are you muslim? Why are you a witness of Jehova?.......

Most of the pious people on this Earth couldn't even tell you why they are what they are. They'll give you a monotonous answer that reflects tradition or a single experience. There's nothing wrong with that. You should want to build family ties through religion. But how do you know the way you are praising God fits you best? What research have you done in different religions that shows you took in all perspectives of other ways to praise him? What about the history of the religion when it as first founded compelled you to stick with this life style? Since then, do you agree with the way it has been innovated? It shows that the people are using monotonous optimism with hope to make it to heaven. Whenever I bring this up to a strong believer they never fail to answer me with a one sided answer that just proves my point, and thus reflects them being willfully ignorant becuase they havent chosen to take the time to read up on thier religion and others as well to see if this lifestyle in fact is for them. Now...before I go any further...allow me to contradict myself.

I know that any religion is faith based. Meaning that you arent necessarily supposed to know that somethings right....you just believe.........................Bullshit. God hasnt provided us with all these resources for no reason. He talks left and right about wisdom and foolishness. Not allowing yourself to be informed about why you believe in what you believe in is foolish. This is not an attempt to deter you away from your beliefs nor make you switch religions. But it is an attempt to challenge you to know your shit. Think about it.....There is no set religion that if we live by it thesmophilistically and excel in it, that we are guaranteed a wonderful after life. In fact, there is no guaruntee that after life is even real. We dont know if we are just brainwashed and reused as a cat or flamingo. There is no book with God's signature on it lol.....If youre going to indulge yourself in something faithbased, with no definite outcome, at least know for sure that this is the branch you want to indulge yourself into. Dont allow someone like me to ask you "Why are you a ______?" and you scramble to answer the question using a narrow minded response. You have the right to know....use it.

This needs to be addressed.....

If I come up to you friendly, Just to converse...that doesn’t mean I have an objective. It’s called networking. I have come to the conclusion a long time ago that I'm not chasing females anymore...if they want something from me, they’ll come to me. I dent waste my time "posting" (I’ll come back to that) outside of clubs in attempt to take you home. I’ll leave it to the low life losers who don’t know that that’s not attractive to a girl. It’s actually kind of intimidating. . . .I am a friendly guy...nothing more...nothing less. If I think your cool, I will ignite a conversation with you. You should feel flattered that I seek to find a new friendship in you rather than being judgmental about my motives. You don’t know me....yet. Therefore it wouldn’t be fair for you to treat me in such a way while I’m trying to converse with you.

On another note....Don’t tell me my game is whack. Cause to correct you in two ways. (1) I don’t use "Game “cause (2) "game" is for people whose personality is too shallow to sustain your interest in them. Sorry I have to be the first dude to be real with you first off.

On another note....To piggy back on the aforementioned topic above, Im SICK of seeing my brothers posting. Its so fucking stupid! WTF is cool about watching people walk past you. Thats stalker shit!!! Insane ass Eminem type shit! Theres plenty of other things you could be getting done instead of watching me walk past you with my pants pulled up...I betcha couldnt do that. Or maybe Im just taking the wrong perspective on this...Use your "Freedom of speech", Go to my chat box and persuade me otherwise!...(which is unlikely)

On another note...I’m a type of dude who cares less about others' opinions about me...most times. I’ve learned early in high school that when you value your friends opinions too heavily, your subject to do things that doesn’t reflect your values, aspirations, and morals. Therefore I live how I live! I dress how I dress. People say I dress like a fag. That’s Great! That means I’m wearing something you're not...mission accomplished! Fags dress cool, and aren’t saturated by the equestrian "swag" that plagues the wardrobe world right now. (I’ll come back to that) I’m also going to do what satisfies me. My hobbies are my hobbies. So fucking what if I like to:

• Read all the books in Barnes and Noble and leave.
• Write what I read for later references. "To teach once is to learn twice."
• Speak with purpose. I believe that the ideals of 'Paideia' will save this world. And I’m going to indulge myself in it.
• Rap just for fun....battle me bruh!
• Skateboard.......its liberating. So what if that’s not "what black people do"....don’t you think that’s kind of contradicting, seeing that the prevalent theme for coolness in the black community is "Black Boy White Boy Swag".....STFU!
• Run....I’m good at it. And you wouldn’t race me in a 3 mile run if your life depended on it. It’s my work out. A short 30 min run keeps my abs intact and my endurance up......great for your sex game guy!
• Walk around nude. I’m comfortable with how my body looks. I never have on clothes when I’m at home and I have a household of 8...5 of which are girls. I put on boxers for the decency of the kitchen and guests, but besides that...sucka my bawlsa! I’m no Mandingo, but I’m damn sure comfy with what I have my guy. My college roommate is going to hate me....=/
• Dress up. Shows class...get some.

On another note.......What’s up with all you guys and this "Ralph Lauren P-Lo". The style was made for people who want to sustain their class while dressing down. Not people who plan to contradict their wardrobes by oversized shirts and sagged pants. If I dare wear Polo you would understand how much better it looks when it’s worn right. But since I’m a "differenter"...I don’t rock shit like that. My shit go harder than my dick when I’m shaving. Catch up or catch on.

This is to be continued....there’s plenty more to be addressed.

P.S. - I apologized if this lowered the respect that some of you may have of me or changed your perception of me in any way....this is me backstage in the dressing room....please refer to paragraph 4.

This has been a Bean Boy PSA.....

Skateboards & Marta Cards

I have been reunited with a past love of mines. Skateboarding. Summer '08 was summer track, Skateboards and Marta Cards. I didnt run summer track this year, butI have been pretty rebellious. And in doing so, my car & driving priveleges have been revoked...but I got hella shit to do! So its back to the Marta Cards and Skateboarding. Plus, Morehouse wont let freshmen drive anyhow. I love my board. And I owe it hella time....its time to skate away...coast.

Headline: Facebook FEIN redeems his life!

Soooooo today I finally came to the conslusion the at Facebook is entirely too time consuming. I could be doing a plethora of things instead of artificial networking. I have established my self socially. Now i sek to establish myself acadmically. I suppose that its going to take time. So I shall diverge from Facebook and converge with other books.

But pssh...I also still have to get super aquainted to riding my skateboard again. I love my board...just got sidetracked with my car and didnt spend time with it. I apologize babe.

I have to get back into caring for my body. I used to run all th time. Now i run evey 3 weeks. My body has went from spectacular to attacked by Dracula. Sucked all the beach body out of me.

I really want to write a book. Guess this is the operative moment for me to begin. =)

I want to be a mentor to someone. Gues this is the time to start reaching out to my brothers.

I want to do more community service. With out being addicted to Facebook, this is a viable errand.

Facebook...you are a great site. Great for networing and just plain fun. But I have to indulge myself in better things now...I have to start attaining my goals on this road to success. They say that whatever you do for 21 days becomes nature. Well if I can learn to control myself within this deactivation period. Then maybe I will consider reactivating my account. Thanks for understanding...

Allow Randy to make you [Randy]

Say the second "Randy" in the voice of Austin Powers. I thought it was pretty funny, considering the situation. lol =)

Before I begin I must tell you the story behind this man's legacy. While watching this video, you would think Randy Pausch sustains his sanity by being a temporary bablatrice. You would think He is just using the microphone to level himself off of a previous sugar rush he had backstage. But oh the contrary, this man has 10 tumors in his liver and only has 5 more months to live. (Well he's actually deceased now - Summer 2008 he passed) He is dying for god sakes! Happily! Who does that? Randy does. He uses the whole theme of attaining your childhood dreams but has an underlying message he is getting across. Many of them. The whole lesson is a "Head Fake" as he would say because he strongly believes that people learn best indirectly. They will grasp the concept of what your conveying to them better if you walk it in behind a decoy.

His head fake has taught me this:

• Never let someone confine you to a status, goal, or even aspiration. Never let anyone put a cap on what you want to do. You are the author of your book. He explains it as "Brick walls let us show our determination. They are there to distinguish the people with a ton of determination from the people with tin can of determination." So whatever you want in life, the way you go about attaining it is determined by your determination. For me my determination paid off in my matriculation into my dream school, Morehouse College. Seeing as though they first rejected me when I applied, I can tell you the true value in not letting "brick walls" define you as you embark on your journey into YOUR future!
• Secondly, when advice, feedback or input is given to you, swallow it and allow it to digest into your daily life. Pausch asserted "Anybody can get chewed out, but who actually listens." When people give your feedback...cherish it and use it!
• Lastly, In compliance to the aforementioned points, be prepared. He stated "Luck is when preparation meets opportunity." And i understand that thoroughly. In fact on my business cards I have a quote that states "An opportunity of a life time should be seized in the lifetime of that opportunity."...I think that speaks for itself.

Randy Pausch compelled me to go after my dreams twice. Tis lecture is rather extensive but its more enlightening. I challenge all of you to allow it to persuade you to be a better you. Indulge yourself in it, then allow it to thrive you. This is a dead man’s last words....it has to be the most significant life lessons he's accumulated in his lifespan. Take heed.